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Loneliness, awkwardness, emptiness, emotionally drained.  Those are the emotions that overtake me after a large social gathering especially when it involves having to interact with strangers.  I tend to be the girl who stands alone in the corner wishing to be outgoing and a social butterfly while inwardly praying that no one sees me and decides to strike up a conversation.  I tend to feel left out when I see groups talking and laughing but I also have no desire to join in.  I don’t like small talk, I prefer to have deeper conversations.

Unfriendly, depressed, shy, lack of social skills, antisocial, loner, friendless.  These are the attributes the general population associates with introverts.  I don’t lack in social skills I actually believe that I socialize better than most people my age.  I’m not depressed, I simply “crash” after too much emotional stimulation; i.e. parties, family or social gatherings, vacations.  I can only take so much interaction before I get irritated and seek out an empty room to regain my energy.  Introverts aren’t always loners or friendless.  I find it quite tiring to trying to get to know someone and I’m always happier with one or two close friends.

Reading was and still is my escape from reality.  It’s my way of tuning out the world when it gets too loud and I get grouchy when someone disturbs me.  Another quality that maybe not all but definitely a lot of introverts and myself have is always being fully aware of my surroundings.  I notice everything and usually remember both major and minor details about events.  I also remember every time I’ve felt embarrassed and think everyone else does too when in reality they probably didn’t notice.

Being an introvert isn’t something I chose to be, it’s not something I think anyone can choose to be.  You either are or you aren’t and I don’t see it as a bad thing. I just have different needs and different quirks, it’s what makes me unique and if people don’t like it that’s okay.  Give me a quiet room with a couple of books and this little introvert will be perfectly happy!



I’m sure anyone reading this has been hurt at least once in their life.  I’m not talking physical hurt as in stubbing your toe or breaking a bone (although both are equally painful).  No, I’m talking full on emotional, mental and soul crushing hurt.  Whether it was hurtful words being thrown at you like recently sharpened shuriken, losing a beloved or even something that wasn’t aimed directly at you but still clings on to you like a leech.

I’ve experienced all three and I’ve learned the process I myself go through very well.  It starts with simple hurt feelings that just stay there nagging at me, tugging at my heart just when I thought I’d forgotten about it.  Then the resentment grows and every word and action that person does irritates me.  All it takes is one tiny comment to send me spiraling.  It makes me want to curl up in a ball and cry and I feel as if my soul is being crushed.  Then I get angry.  I get the urge to throw things and the two-year old in me throws a little inner tantrum.  Last I get quiet and plot the things I’m going to say to make them feel the way they made me feel.  But the thing is I never follow through with that last part.

Maybe it’s because I’ve been on the receiving end of so many snarky comments and hurtful words that I know how it feels and don’t take action.  I always say to myself “How would I benefit?” and more importantly “What’s the point of hurting that person?” all it does is create a nasty cycle and honestly, it’s not worth it.

My point is.  Let.  It.  Go.

I know it’s hard.  I know how much you want to spit venom right back and make them feel your pain.  I know how it feels to want to crawl in bed and sob your heart out.  I know how hard it is to just let it roll off your shoulder.  But don’t spill the words and go ahead and let those rocks fall off your back.  You’ll be a better person for it.  I’m not saying don’t ever confront the person because if it’s something that is truly hurtful you should never let it continue, you shouldn’t ever let someone abuse you.  What I’m saying is don’t do it in that moment because the only result is going to be a screaming match (maybe physical altercations) and more hurt feelings.  Wait a couple of days or weeks until you’re calm enough to have a civil conversation.

Keep in mind though that the person may not understand, laugh it off and tell you to get over it but that’s not what matters.  The only thing that matters is that you get to say what needs said, the key is not caring how what you say is perceived because that’s never up to you.  It’s ok if that person doesn’t take it well, that’s their problem not yours.  But don’t ever let them pull you down to their level, once you have raised your voice you’ve already lost.

So let it go.  Your hurt will heal over time and your life is better without toxic people in your life.