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Say What You Need To Say & Move On

Every so often you have to make a decision on whether you are going to let a stagnant relationship stay stagnant, make an effort to change it for the better or end it.  It’s totally fine if you want to keep the relationship the way it is and it also perfectly fine to end it.  I personally believe that making an effort to change the relationship is the hardest of the three decisions.

It all starts with a conversation.  Communication is key and extremely vital to any long-lasting relationship.  Before you approach any situation it is usually best to assess yourself to see what place you’re coming from.  Are you coming from a place of peace and solidity or are you coming from a place of angst and anger?  Think about the things you want to get said during the conversation, make mental bullet points.  It’s always good to prepare yourself and think of possible situations and how you will handle them.

Tip: Never go into any conversation ready for a fight or angry because even if what you are going to say is truth you won’t be saying it to be heard, you will be saying it to hurt them and that never gets you anywhere.

No matter how prepared you are the one thing you cannot control is how the addressee will react/respond.  Sometimes it doesn’t matter what you say or even how you say it, the recipient will not hear it and that’s okay.

Really, it’s okay.

What isn’t okay is not saying how you feel and not trying.  It’s better to try and then leave the ball in the other person’s court than to not say anything at all and continue to stay stagnant or let hurt/hard feelings fester and boil until you explode causing in an even bigger mess.

So say whatever it is that you need to say.  If the other person doesn’t care to or isn’t capable of receiving what you’re giving then that isn’t your problem.  But if they don’t care to change then move on, don’t keep pestering them.  Sometimes it may not have anything to do with you.  They may not be in a place to hear your words.

You just do you and be proud of making the decision to extend yourself regardless of the outcome!

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